The Self-Esteem Conundrum: Can We Fake It Til We Feel It?

It is a moment of complete vulnerability when you can bravely and honestly admit that your self-esteem is in the gutter. Allowing that reality to come into conscious awareness can be so uncomfortable that we do everything in our power to deny it, stuff it, ignore it, and numb it. I admire my clients who check off the "low self-esteem / low self-worth box" on their intake form. At least they've gotten that far. There are o...
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Does Your New Year's Resolution Need To See A Shrink?

Nod if this sounds familiar:  “I want something to change but I don’t know what and/or I don’t know how.  So… I will continue to go through the motions that run my everyday life and allow that to be a distraction so I don’t have to think about it anymore.” So it’s the beginning of January.  And you’ve over-indulged over the holidays (again) even after you swore you wouldn’t (again).  And the gyms are p...
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Why Your Therapist Wants You To Go To Yoga

There is a reason you keep hearing about yoga.  There is also a reason you keep hearing about yoga during conversations about mental health.  There is a direct correlation between the practice of yoga and improvements in overall mood as well as decreases in symptoms of both anxiety and depression.  As a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, I don’t prescribe medication. But I do prescribe yoga to each and every...
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7 Guidelines To Help You Through A Breakup

As a therapist I see people almost daily who are trying to heal from the ending of a relationship. That can mean anything from a breakup after dating for a few weeks to a divorce after being married for 20 years. Typical emotions include anger, shock, confusion, anxiety, sadness, loneliness, and shame. Whether you are experiencing one or all of those feelings, it can be overwhelming. Even the strongest, most independent p...
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Letting Go

I have a guru.

As anyone on a path of self-exploration and growth should.

About 3 years ago, I started to write a blog. It was candidly titled “The Perpetual Bachelorette," and it's purpose was to share my experiences with internet dating. I was going on 32 years of consecutive single-dom.  The behind-the-scenes purpose was to prove to my happily coupled up friends that they really needed to stop saying, “Have you tried internet dating? I heard a lot of people meet that way!” I wrote for over a year and it was about that time that I went to meet with my guru, Jimmy. I had been so excited about this blog. The fact that I was writing and getting good feedback. That I found a creative outlet for my 'unfortunate' state of still being single in my 30’s. And, if I do say so myself, thought it was entertaining if nothing else. I couldn't wait to talk to him about it.

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